BOOK REVIEW: "B*tch please i'm Khanyi Mbau By Lesley Mofokeng"

 

Khanyi Mbau on the cover of her book by Lesley Mofokeng

BY: Angel Gagoopane

Twitter: @GagoopaneAngel

Facebook: Angel Angie Gagoopane

This is a bit of a late post, I have always wanted read this book but I just didn’t have the means to buy it then. Now that I have finally bought it, I see it fit to write a review about this thought provoking book that spills all the juicy details about the ever so controversial Khanyi Mbau.

At first when I started reading this book, I knew it was hot! I mean, this is Khanyi Mbau we are talking about, the scandals never end.

Khanyi and Ex husband Mandla in Happier times

What I loved most about this book is that, it explains where, it all started, when she was born and if she was born with the natural urge to love all the finer things in life which is true, she was bought up by her grandmother who ensured that her every need was taken care of. It is sad considering that she didn’t grow up with her father always by her side, and I think that explains why she would go after older men, as they resemble a father figure somehow.

Lesley and Khanyi take us into her world, when she was 18 and married to a man twice her age and old enough to be her father, she explains how she never saw Mandla as an old, ugly man, until he started cheating on her.  Mandla started cheating on Khanyi, when she went for an ultra sound scan and the doctor confirmed that the baby is a girl, and Mandla stormed out of the room. Mandla had expected Khanyi to give birth to a son and when she didn’t Mandla just stopped taking care of Khanyi; her relationship with Mandla started being abusive and things just kept going downhill for the couple.

It was just scandal after scandal from then onwards. This book for me explains a lot that I didn’t understand about Khanyi and it made me realize that often we judge people without knowing the reasons behind the things that they do, good or bad. What I also realized is that, Khanyi Mbau has always been a big dreamer, she always had a love for the finer things in life and she always knew that she would be a star.

I give this book thumbs up! I wouldn’t mind reading this book, over and over again. I hope Khanyi and Lesley will write another book about what Khanyi is doing now; she has gone from a gold-digger to a mother that hustles and does what needs to be done. Good read indeed.

What is the government trying to achieve by giving condoms to 10 year olds!!?????????

I know the pregnancy rate in South African is increasing every day, and we are now facing situations where by some underage children find themselves pregnant but I think that there is a thin line between teaching safe sex and encouraging sex. I understand that the government is only trying to aid the situation but how can we help lower the pregnancy rate by giving children who are still between grade 3-4 condoms?

To me it seems as if we are encouraging our children or giving them a go-ahead to indulge in sexual behavior by supplying them with condoms at such a tender age. At this age children should be learning about the changes that occur in the bodies not telling them to explore those changes by giving them condoms. In our time abstinence was encouraged, even though it didn’t work for some people but it was the only effective way. I think that making contraceptives available for them at an early age was enough.

We cannot control what our children do when we are not with them, so I don’t think this is going to work effectively, it might work because they might get the whole process of using a condom correctly when it’s taught to them but other than that, I don’t agree. If children have decided to engage in sexual activity there isn’t much we can do about it.

In conclusion I think that, there’s a fine line between teaching children about the danger of sex and encouraging them to have sex. The government has made a very big mistake and I don’t think that this implementation of condoms at an early age will have a positive impact, because I do not think that these children know how to even use a condom correctly, I think that this is going to be a disaster and we won’t even manage as a country with the consequence of this action.

 

 

RED MY LIPS!!!!!!

By: Angel Gagoopane and Rose Mbokane

Wear red lipstick in April:  April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month to raise awareness about sexual violence and speak out against victim blaming.

Red My Lips is an annual global awareness campaign that asks supporters referred to as ‘Warriors’ to wear red lipstick throughout April to raise awareness and raise funds. The red lipstick project aims to create visibility, combat rape, myths and demonstrate solidarity and support for those who have survived sexual assault.

According to Essence Magazine, one of the most common myths about sexual violence is that it is provoked by attraction or desire. Instead of blaming the rapist for the rape, people often blame the victim saying “she looked too sexy”, “she was dressed provocatively” or “she asked for it”.

A red lip is often associated with vibrant sexuality and attraction; therefore wearing red lipstick is a fitting weapon to eliminate the stereotypes, damaging myths, and victim blaming mentality among societies. It gives supporters an opportunity to stand together and make the bold statement that victims are never responsible for sexual assault.

There aren’t too many set of rules for wearing a red lipstick, what works for someone else might not work for you so supporters must not be afraid to experiment with different hues of lipstick, so wear that red lipstick with confidence!

 To support this initiative, ‘warriors’ or any supporters can share a picture of themselves wearing their favorite red lip color on various social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter using the hashtag   #RedMyLips

Is Big Brother Mzanzi/Africa teaching the youth to be somehow care free and promiscuous?????

Big Brother is a reality game show franchise created by John de Mol and was originally based on a show from the Netherlands of the same name. The premise of the show is that there is a group of people, called "housemates" living together in a large house. During their time in the house they are isolated from the outside world and are not aware of outside events or have access to any electronic devices. Contestants are continuously monitored by in-house television cameras as well as personal audio microphones during their entire stay. Each series lasts for about three months.

Big Brother is a television show that is quite different from all the other shows; I think that it is ‘special’, considering that is has millions of viewers but all that the contestants do in that house is simply, play games/challenges, gossip, drink alcohol, smoke and do other unimaginable things. I am surprised why we even have a show like this on our television screens for 3 months in a year.

I thought that good television or anything relayed by the media was supposed to either, inform, educate, entertain or distract us from our daily routines but it seems that as we change as a society, we are also changing our morals as people in society perhaps it is ‘moving with the times’.

It is understandable that some people do not like earning their money, they would rather have the money fall into their hands without even lifting a single finger, but to parade naked, drink alcohol, and conspire against each other all in the name of ‘money’ is very different. I guess we cannot all view entertainment in the same way, because what may be entertaining to me, may not be necessarily entertaining to the next person, and I cannot judge anyone who is on that show or someone who has been on that show for the simple fact that, I don’t know their reasons for being on that show and I do not know what situation they are in financially that led them to go and take part in this show therefore I cannot conclude and say this show is a bad show.

What do you guys think about how women and men have exchanged roles in society?

these days you find men doing jobs that back in the day were considered 'women jobs' or emasculating jobs.
you find men who are working as cleaners, and receptionists and some are even stay at home dads.
I am humbled to see men who do these jobs, I guess pride did not get in the way.
#LETSTALKREALISSUES#